The Terrorists will not change us…
Except when it comes to delaying our election process, delaying democracy.
Except when it comes to the state wanting even greater powers to actually hack into its citizens private communications.
Except when it comes to freedom of speech because apparently 80,000 people want The Sun banned in Manchester because they are brain-dead twats living in an irony-free zone.
Except I don’t full know how to express myself in words, so here are some emojis.
Except I want people to lose their jobs if they make a joke or say something possibly defamatory.
Except now I’ve got a tattoo – solidarity brothers and sisters.
Except when it comes to being able to actual discuss just what the fuck is going on in the world.
Following the events at the Manchester Arena on the 22nd of Many 2017 there followed the usual, typically predictable response to a terrorist attack.
The #PrayFor and #NotAll hashtags fly like winged monkeys, the avatars changed to accommodate the latest geographical victim, well one that is in the West at least, you’d never have a static avatar if you had to commemorate everyone blown to bits in the Middle East.
The UK press wait a day or so and then dwell upon the attacker(s) because for some reason it feels that the public need to know their name(s), their background, their history because that doesn’t detract from the victims at all.
We also have to preach the mantra that terrorists don’t represent Islam but merely a warped view of it and it has nothing to do with religion.
Give it a week and then the police will release a report about an increase in “hate crime” – quite what being blown up, run over, shot or stabbed is if it isn’t hate is beside the point in this most Orwellian-like crime, but if you’ve been called a nasty name that too is a crime apparently on a par with loss of life and needs as much media focus.*
Above all it is pushed by all and sundry that we should “carry on” and that was should not let “hate beat love.”
Hate is OK. Hate is a valid human emotion.
This past fortnight has all been about love, or people’s versions of what love is, not even Foreigner knew what it was and needed it showing to them but either way its was all about love.
One big, homogeneous, nondescript, identity-less Love.
The avatar changes, the bee tattoos, the candle-lit vigils do nothing but focus on the individual and their suffering, which is nothing, it is absolutely fuck-all to those that were actually killed, their next of kin and those who actually could have been victims.
What, so you didn’t “love Manchester” before you changed your avatar and you will stop loving it when you change it?
Your bee tattoo and graffiti, possibly a nice symbol of solidarity is really just look-at-me narcissism, less about love and more a constant reminder of carnage.
You only have love? You have no hate, because hate is all terrorists have and you are better than terrorists?
Not killing people makes you better than a terrorist, not having any other emotions makes you an unthinking drone.
And this is the problem. I don’t hate you for changing your avatar or getting a tattoo or painting a picture, or singing a song or lighting a candle. Grief, if that honestly what it is as opposed to relief, is something personal that we all deal with in our own way.
What I do hate, apart from delusional, murdering fucksticks is the rest of the response; that we carry on as normal and yet we still modify our behaviour, our language, our ability to ask questions or offer up answers and even opinions.
In the Kübler-Ross model there are five stages to dealing with grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.
There seems to be a collective brain-fart at work that we avoided the 2nd stage and just focus on the 3rd and 5th. The world of social media seems to turn into Rimmer after he has had his first meeting with the Polymorph in Red Dwarf.
You neither have to bargain with terrorists, because you can’t and you certainly don’t have to accept it, regardless of what Mayors of London say.
I have love and it doesn’t need mood slime to help flourish, but I certainly have hate too. The hate won’t keep me any more safe that those apparently without it but it is my response to events, along with continuing to question and to use the same language.
Hate is OK. Hate is a valid human emotion. It is all about how you channel it.
Thanks for reading.
*Hyperbole but it does seems as much gravitas is placed on “hate crime” statistics than any other crime. Crime is hate, all crime is a hate crime.